I'm wearing my sassy-pants today; you've been warned.
I'm writing this post because I've noticed an increase in people following me and asking for me to follow in return; that's not how I operate. I don't follow just for numbers. This post is for them.
I know I'm not a big blogger and maybe I don't have the "right" to be picky about who I follow, but in recent weeks I've definitely noticed a trend in how I decide who I'll add to my Instagram, Bloglovin', or Twitter feeds. Some might call me judgmental, but I don't have the time to spend on posters I don't mesh with.
I won't follow you if...You can't use proper grammar. Seriously, if your "about me" says "I luv 2 b @ the gym~", I can't close the tab fast enough. Why do random people searching to boost their numbers use such pathetic writing styles? It's such a turn-off.
I won't follow you if...Your "about me" lists your traits in an eye-roll-worthy order. This isn't about having the descriptors there at all; it has to do with how the person prioritizes them.
There are three main categories to this one, and I'm going to get flack for them all. If the first word someone uses to describe herself is "wife", I'm out of there; I feel like a woman's first descriptive word for herself shouldn't be about her marital status.
The same is true with variations of "mom", such as "blessed mommy of 4!" I just know it will be hard to feel connected to that person if she identifies herself first-and-foremost by her motherhood.
Finally, overly religious tones in an "about me" send me packing. If the first thing in their profile is "Flying Spaghetti Monster Follower! <3" (or something similar, because I might actually follow a hardcore Pastafarian), I know the tone of their posts isn't going to be what I'm looking for in my search for fitness inspiration.
I won't follow you if...Your blog is a wall of text with no discernible paragraph breaks and a quirky font. I know blogs are all in good fun, but there has to be a level of professionalism, right?!
|I'm not the only person wearing my sassy-pants today.|
I won't follow you if...You're a one-trick pony. I used to follow running blogs that were just about running, but if I want to really feel connected to a blogger, I need to see more about their lives! A strict posting schedule that follows WIAW and the like can't hold my interest.
I won't follow you if...You're unnecessarily pessimistic. Listen, I'm a realist bordering on pessimist, and honest negativity can be refreshing and allow people to commiserate and connect. However, when I see people complain about perfectly awesome things all the time - like a ridiculously fast race that didn't meet their goal, or weekend full of fun travel that left them waaah, sooo tired! - I immediately need to leave that page.
I won't follow you if...You're closed-minded. The first time I see a racist, homophobic, sexist, etc, comment or post, I'm out of there.
That last one may seem ironic; I'm kind of painting myself as pretty closed-minded here. Obviously there are exceptions to the rules, but it's true that how we market ourselves in our profiles is very important to how we come across, and people make their decisions in split seconds!
I figure if people are turned-off by my profile or about me, we wouldn't have connected well anyway, and in the end I do think it's quality over quantity; I'll never understand people who go out and search for followers in droves because I'd rather follow 10 people I truly connect with than a million I hardly like.
Did you put a lot of thought into crafting your profile/about me?
Are there certain things that make you lose interest in a blogger/poster?